Always Choose Kindness, Towards Yourself and Others
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Spread Your Sunshine Founder was recently the Featured Guest on The Legal Limit Podcast with Jon Wilbur. As further detailed in his presentation explores the effects of positive and negative self-talk, as well as the importance of treating each other with kindness, and what it can mean if you don’t.
While toxic positivity is certainly real, how you speak to yourself, about yourself, is still crucial in determining many factors. If you practice negative self-talk, you will have self-doubt and lack self-assuredness. If you speak positively, while it’s no automatic guarantee for success, it certainly puts you in a better mental space. It is just like the food that we consume, it can either have a positive or negative affect on our bodies, depending on if it’s nutritious or junk.
It is also important how we speak to others. Are we cheering them on or are we judging? When we pass judgement on someone else, it’s typically a reflection of ourselves and our own need for love and validation. It can also be fear-based, as in, we are afraid to step out and take risks towards our own desires, so instead we project that onto someone who is taking risks in their own life, such as seeking out wealth management firms to help them decide on the best ways to invest. Because of this, it is likely to never reach their level of success or exceed it, if that negative mindset is perpetuated.
As performers, or for anyone with a platform and audience, it can be difficult not to acknowledge every mistake we make, especially when people are quick to point them out for us. But unless they are significant or harmful, just move passed them and keep pushing. Be cautious to whom you give control of your happiness.
College and professional athletes oftentimes become great at this. Although professionals are seasoned, college athletes, with little life experience, who remain calm and graceful under the pressure of thousands of booing fans after they’ve fumbled the ball, dropped the pass, got sacked or missed the game-winning shot, have an incredible tenacity. Most of us only have a handful of people witness our mistakes, can you imagine the intensity of thousands, perhaps millions of eyes scrutinizing your every move?
Imagine if we shifted the world, shifted the status quo by breaking generational traumas, in order to uplift one another instead of trying to pull each other down. Of course, not everyone participates in that type of behavior, but bullying certainly runs rampant in the West, with individualistic mindsets and competition that separates us instead of uniting us. It feels good to feel loved, to feel appreciated, seen, heard and acknowledged. And it feels good to love, appreciate, witness, listen and acknowledge others, too. Sometimes we don’t even know how far our empathy reaches, but if we’re lucky, we get to see someone years later and they get to tell us exactly how our uplifting words or gestures have made a positive impact on their lives.
Remember, practice kindness on yourself, as well as on others. Practice being kind to every living creature, I guarantee it will make you feel better. We are not in competition with each other, there is no scarcity when it comes to success. We are all capable of achieving it.
Hopefully this has given you some insight regarding how we treat each other, including how we treat ourselves, can be vital to our own mental and physical health, as well as fulfillment.
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